I was so excited to say hello to summer break this year; no homework, no chasing down the school bus because your kids think hurry means go as slowly as humanely possible, no running to school in your jammie pants because your kid forgot his bag lunch and the bus for the field trip is leaving at, never mind, it left already, and now you’re driving to the museum in your jammie pants.
I love that summer means I don’t have to hear that noise.
Only, summer hasn’t been entirely better.
We’ve had a bazillion end-of-year parties to attend, and all of the doctor-dentist-orthodontist appointments that we had to reschedule a thousand times during the school year, and just adjusting.
I love their little faces hardcore, but being together all day is, um, weird.
Not weird, bad, but like, weird, hard.
As a work-at-home mom, finding time to work when The Dudes are all up in my grill asking for snacks and attention and fight settling and every single everything has been exhausting.
I need school to start back. Or a week on the beach. Followed immediately by three more weeks on the beach.
Probably I should’ve scheduled some time off to get back into the swing of things, to acclimate to working while surrounded by needy, noisy people again, but I didn’t. And, my boss isn’t just like hey, girl, I know summer is hard for you, how about you just not meet any deadlines this week and focus on you.
That’s the I-work-for-Ryan-Gosling-and he-treats-me-special-because-I’m-beautiful-inside fantasyland that only exists in my head.
So, juggling it all is what I’m up to this summer.
Did I mention I suck a little at juggling?
Next week will be better!
Summer Sanity Savers: How to Relax More & Freak Out Less
1. Make a plan. We’ve tried the stay-in-jammies-all-day-and-go-where-the-wind-blows us summer thing before, and while a bra-optional lifestyle is pretty spectacular, it gets old pretty quickly, particularly to your don’t-wear-bras-anyway kids. Kids appreciate direction and discipline and focus, so give it to them. Structure can be relaxing too, and it will help you and your kids have more fun and get on each other’s nerves less.
2. Have chore day. Personally I hate doing chores always in the summer and I know my kids do too, but it’s easy to let your responsibilities slip away from you when you are busy soaking up the sun and eating ice cream for dinner. We make Monday our clean and organize day. This way we have a recover from the weekend and ease into our weekday on the agenda.
3. Don’t feel pressure to go big. Just because all of your friends are renting beach houses and flying to far off lands doesn’t mean you have to do that to have fun too. I hate vacationing in the summer; it’s too expensive and every place is crowded. We do our major vacays in the fall and do small excursions in summer. I feel like we get to see more that way. If your budget or preference doesn’t allow for it, don’t feel pressure to do a year’s worth of traveling in the 10 weeks of summer.
4. Relax the rules. I’m not saying skip naptime and let the manners slip–that would be anarchy! I’m saying dessert before dinner every now and again, or hitting the sack sans bath is cool in the summer.
5. Designate mom time. In order to keep me from going all the way nuts, I instituted quiet time for the summer. I was starting to feel guilty for shooing The Dudes away so I could take calls or respond to emails. I was spending all day sluggish and exhausted because I was sitting at the pool during the day with The Dudes and having to stay up until 1am working. I was cranky and stabby and forgetful and mean. I needed a quick change to save our summer. Ergo, quiet time. Two hours every afternoon that we are home they retire to their individual areas to do something alone (away from me AND each other) while I work. Everyone gets to recharge. Added bonus, at least half of the time quiet time turns into naptime; ain’t nothing wrong with that!