Body confidence is an issue that we so often hear talked about for girls and women.
As a woman I get that -there are so many things about women’s bodies, things men seem to feel like that have a say about, that teaching our young women and girls to stand up for them, believe in them, and know that they are theirs and theirs alone is super important.
But, it’s important for boys too.
They need to understand that every male body doesn’t have to look a certain way, that they should be proud of whatever body type they have, that caring for their bodies is important, and that respecting others starts with respecting themselves.
I have struggled with body confidence for most of my life. After having children, it only got worse. While I am more accepting of myself today than I have ever been, I still struggle to love every inch of the skin I am in.
I don’t want that for my boys.
I want them to understand the issues both men and women face when it comes to body confidence.
I want them to recognize that there is a double standard for men and women when it comes to physical appearances (it’s okay to have a dad bod, but mom bods are gross), but I also don’t want them to fall victim to any of the thoughts people perpetuate about what a man’s (or a woman’s) body should look like -good or bad.
I want them to feel good about the skin they are in (and not worry about how tall or how buff they are going to be).
I want them to appreciate good health over a certain physique (you don’t have to be ripped to be healthy).
And, I want them to face each and every experience with confidence.
I want them to know that as men they can and should be both.
Being confident should not be confused with being cocky or arrogant.
I want them to trust in their own abilities to achieve success while also taking time to be kind and considerate to others.
I want them to look in the mirror and know they are beautiful -even with their brown skin and their kinky hair.
I want them to know that no matter what other people think, they are beautiful, they are smart, they are good and they are kind.
They are worth time and investment.
They deserve to be well cared for, not overindulged, but cared for.
I never want them to feel guilty about taking time to ensure they are physically or mentally healthy.
I want them to know it’s okay to work out, it’s okay to buy clothing that makes you look and feel good, and it’s okay to invest in your health and wellness, both with time and with money.
Which is why getting braces is something that has always been important to us as parents.
We want them to feel confident about everything, including their smiles.
It was something that both DudeDad and I struggled with in the past and we want to ensure that they don’t face that struggle too.
Dude 2 has the most electrifying smile, but I know how important a healthy smile is to one’s overall health and confidence as they age.
Next month he will be getting his first phase of Invisalign treatment to start his journey to a straight, healthy, confident smile.
You can follow along on his journey as we chronicle the entire experience as part of the Invisalign Moms Advisory Board.
Here is a before photo…
I can’t wait to see what his after pics will look like!
Want to learn more about the Invisalign process? Be sure to check out this post: What Parents Should Know About Invisalign Teen