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Bullying is a big deal.
For the child experiencing it, for the children witnessing it, and even for the child perpetuating it.
It is a complex social interaction fueled by fear, that changes everyone involved.
I’d like to say it has never touched our family.
But it has.
The Dudes have been victims, but they have also been solutions, and it is how they have learned to help themselves and others that I think is the most important.
One way to help your kids stop bullying is to empower them –give them strategies, give them confidence, give them the tools they need to be strong.
We were sent the book Pottymouth and Stoopid, by James Patterson and Chris Grabenstein, and think it is a wonderful tool.
The story follows two quirky best friends, teased for years and labeled with terrible nicknames they’ve never been able to shake, as they turn their torment into something positive. It is the perfect book for young boys just entering adolescence who are facing new social challenges.
It celebrates quirkiness, intelligence, and individuality.
It shows how harmful and hurtful bullying, teasing and stereotyping can be, but it also proves to young boys that these things are not insurmountable and your own ingenuity, courage, and drive can be the key to your success.
Dude 3 loves it because it’s also funny, with that special humor only boys 9-12 seem to truly appreciate.
If you’re looking for other ways to support your sons and help them stop bullying, here are some words I use to empower mine.
10 Things to Say to Your Sons Stop Bullying
You are worthy.
Worthy of safety. Worthy of care. Worthy of respect and kindness. You don’t have to put up with being bullied and mistreated because you are worth more.
You are loved.
And when someone hurts you they are hurting me. I want you to do everything you can to keep yourself safe for you and for me.
You are allowed to stand up for yourself.
In fact, I expect you to. Say no. Threaten them if you need to. Let them know in no uncertain terms that you will not tolerate being mistreated. Don’t be afraid of getting in trouble –it is your right to protect yourself.
But, don’t be afraid to run.
If you truly feel like you’re in danger, get away. Run if you have to. There is no shame in avoiding bodily harm.
And if they fail you, tell someone else. Keep telling until you get the help that you need. Snitching is not a thing. Honesty is a thing. Protecting yourself is a thing.
There’s nothing to be ashamed about.
The person who should feel ashamed and embarrassed is the one doing the harm. Not you.
Today is not the most important day of your life.
If your bully is spreading rumors about you, saying mean things, trying to embarrass you in front of others, it is easy to let it get to you.
The things that happen to you in elementary school and middle school and even in high school are not going to be the best or the worst in your life. So many more important things will happen to you after. Don’t let these moments ruin all of the wonderful ones you have coming the rest of your life.
And these are not the most important people.
The most important people are the ones who love you.
Make good choices.
If you’re having issues with someone at school, do what you can to avoid that person and unsafe situations. Surround yourself with people you trust –there’s safety in numbers.
See something, say something.
It’s what they say about thwarting terrorism and, when you think about it, bullies are a type of terrorist. If you witness a classmate being bullied, say something, to the person bullying or to an adult. Don’t just let the behavior go. Don’t just let someone get hurt because you were too frightened to speak up. Us good people have to stick together to fight evil.
You can purchase Pottymouth and Stoopid or you can enter to win a copy and a pair of cool kid headphones to drown out the bullies over on my Facebook page on Monday (7/10).
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