A migraine free day.
Zumba and Bang.
Movie date nights with DudeDad.
Pancakes. No syrup.
Teaching The Dudes new things.
Beating a challenge.
Standing up for something I believe in.
Laying down with someone I love.
A basket full of mysteriously folded laundry.
A full day in footie jammies at my mama’s house.
These are things that bring me joy.
Some of these things are outside of my control. But many of them I have the power to bring about with intentionality.
Making the choice to be joyful.
I spent all of 2014 consciously choosing to live a more joyful life, and I’ve learned a few things about that journey (hold your horses, I’m gonna tell you later) that I hope to improve upon in 2015.
But, in addition to an action plan, strength of character, a sound mind, and a bit of good luck, living joyfully is a journey that I think requires support, camaraderie from people who will share a cookie and a cry with you when the joy is pushed outside of your reach.
Inspiring people who are forging a path to a more joyful existence which is why, of course, I brought together another, partially fresh, but totally committed group of Happy Mamas to join me on this joy journey in 2015.
These smart, joyful, and crazy good looking women are part of Happy Mama 2015.
They will be sharing their joys each month with me here as we embark upon another year of intentional happiness and joyful mothering together.
They are here to remind you (but mostly me) that every day might not be all rainbows and sunshine (because snore, who wants that anyway?), but every day will be full of life. Life you can choose to tackle hug and smother in kisses so it doesn’t pass you buy while you’re complaining about it.
My joy mission is to live each day eagerly. Eager to experience, eager to appreciate, eager to breathe in the joy that surrounds me, and to not let the scary, and the sad, and the ugly hold me down.
Those things will be there, but they won’t be me.
5 Things I Learned About Choosing Joy
1. Decide what makes you happy. Not what makes others happy, not what people think should make you happy, what truly makes your little heart twerk in your chest. When you figure out what that is, do more of it.
2. Figure out what’s bringing you down. And then kill it. Okay, don’t kill your mother in law boss spouse nosy neighbor anyone. But, the relationship and your negative interactions with that person should die. And that “person” might be all of the annoying persons on Facebook. Whatever it is, cut it out.
3. It’s not easy. It’s actually kind of exhausting at first. And then, when you’ve figured out that T.Swift was right all along (haters gonna hate hate hate hate hate) and you need to leave all of that ugly behind, it’s freeing. And so many parts of life get easier.
4. It’s not your kids’ job or your husband’s job or anyone’s job to make you happy. Being a wife and a parent brings me joy (because I allow it to), but that is my choice and I don’t leave it up to my kids or my husband to make that happen for me. I realized that I was placing a huge burden on them by putting them in charge of my happiness. Now that they’re not we all get to be happier.
5. Even happy people get sad. Happy people actually have a huge range of emotions, they just make it their goal to find joy again when it leaves them. I realized that finding joy also meant keeping it real, staying true to myself and my emotions, and just being mopey for a day if I need to.
Now, who wants a hug?*
I mean, um, share something happy with us (link it below) and check out the joy Team Happy Mamas is spreading!
*Sorry I wrote this while watching the Bachelor and subsequently deciding that I’m pretty sure I’ve outgrown the Bachelor.