I know, it’s half way through January and already all of your New Year’s resolutions are broken.
That’s why you don’t make them.
But, I do!
I think they are a great way for us to look back at the previous year, think about what was awesome and what wasn’t, and then take some time to focus in and remind ourselves that you need to be more better if you desire to accomplish anything other than the muffin top you’ve been sporting since the early 2000s.
But, I want to encourage you to do more than sign up for a gym membership you won’t use or give up sugar except for in coffee, cookies, cupcakes, and ice cream.
I want you to take a full day to think about what you want for yourself this year and then come up with at least 3 things you can do to make that happen.
Me? I want to lose 16lbs of body fat. I also want to not work on my computer at all on Saturdays. And, I want to be more patient.
To accomplish those goals I have signed up for Medifast and joined a challenge with a group of women I work out with at the gym. I devised a weekday schedule to help me stay focused on my work so that I don’t have to tie up lose ends on the weekend. And, for the patience element, I recently determined that my untreated migraines were causing me to be stressed and stabby. I went to the doctor today to help find a remedy for that.
Update: I lost FIVE pounds last week, didn’t touch my computer this Saturday, and haven’t had a headache in 3 days. Can I get a woot?!
I feel ready to face 2015 like bizzoss. *Crosses arms across chest, gangsta rap style*
I want you to do this for yourself and, when you’re done, also add every single one of the things below to your list of musts for 2015.
Mom Musts: 6 Things Every Mom Should Do in 2015
Focus on you. I know, it’s hard. The baby is sick, and the toddler is tired, and the husband got a new job so he’s exhausted and cranky and hungry the exact moment he walks in the door. And your boss is all over your back, and your mother in law is moving in, and your everyone needs your every single thing that you have in you. I know. Been there. Will be there again. It’s motherhood and we all know the struggle of the struggle. But, struggle makes you strong. And, strong makes you capable. And, being capable means that you can insist. I insist you insist. You owe to your sick baby, and your tired toddler, and your hungry husband, and his needy mama, and to you.
Say no. And also, yes. I want to help my friends. I want to do what I can for those in need. I want to serve the community. I want to save the day, because I’m super. But, only I’m not. And, deep down, I know that. And, I need to make sure everyone else knows that too. But, saying no is one of those things I have always found difficult. Except for when it comes to my children. Somehow, they are well aware of my ability to say no. Because they get to experience it way more often than anyone else on the planet. Explore the awesome of yes where they are concerned. If you free up some time by saying no to other people, saying yes to those teeny people who matter might not even be all that hard.
Choose joy. It’s not one of those things that just happens. You have to make it happen. So challenge the principal to a dance off in the hallway at school. Er, no, I mean, work hard at being joyful. And join the Happy Mama Movement for some ideas and inspiration on getting there and staying there.
Press pause. The term on-the-go mom has always been so silly to me. Is there a such thing as a mom that’s not on the go like, basically, always? I can barely take a beat to sleep. But, we need moments to pause and reflect, to recharge and refocus, to empty our brains of the chaos so that it can start making human choices again. You know, like the kind that don’t make you that lady in a board meeting with an Iron Man sticker on your butt. Plus, it gives you time to appreciate the beautiful things around you. When I’m speeding through life there are just so many things I overlook and even more that I forget. Things that I gloss over and don’t have time to really tuck away in my brain for later when I’m laying around my nursing home in need of something joyful other than old Ryan Gosling pics to clutch on to.
Dream a little. I don’t know about you, but my dreams are either nonexistent or entirely functional. A new fridge, a new dishwasher, a new stovetop, can you tell I need new kitchen appliances?! Take time to dream about things that you want and not just ones that you need. Then, maybe during one of those pauses you have planned, you can think about making some of them come true.
Be brave. I’m not saying you need to slay a dragon or finally serve that chick from the PTA the backhand she ordered, but kick the fear that is holding you back from your awesome all the way to the curb. It feels so good when you step out of your sweats-zone (which is my version of the comfort zone) and do something that makes you feel powerful. Also, your children will have their little mommy-is-just-mommy minds b-a-lown. I like blowing minds. Especially those of little faith. So, let this be the year you blow some minds. Take a first step, start something new, chop off your hair, lose 15 pounds, go to Zumba and dance, dance I say. (I will NOT be chopping off my hair, because I do NOT want a mini afro, all of the other bits are on my calendar though).