There are a ton of annoying mom stereotypes out there.
The harried mom, the helicopter mom, the embarrassing mom, the poorly dressed in yoga pants and Old Navy fleece hoodies mom.
All of them have their basis in reality (yes, some moms are harried and others are helicoptery) but, like every other stereotype in the history of stereotypes, they aren’t all encompassing and they can be hurtful.
And at the very least, annoying.
Which is how I feel about the one about poorly dressed mothers.
You guys know I know about the basis for that one, but you also know that I know it doesn’t have to be that way. You don’t have to care so little about yourself that you will go grocery shopping in a bacon grease stained sweatshirt and fuzzy slippers in the rain.
I know all of us have our lounge-pants-in-public-days because getting little Luke to the bus on time while the baby screams and the dog barfs crayons all over your dining room carpet is real life. I live that life too.
But I also hate that people have such low expectations of mothers that they say silly things to me like, “Wait?! You’re a mom?! You don’t even look like a mom!”
Why? Because I have on clean clothing and high heels?
Every moment of motherhood isn’t chaotic. Every day isn’t covered in barf. And, I don’t have to wear yoga pants outside of yoga!
On the flip side, there are these online moms that many of us just can’t relate to. The ones that are almost sorta kinda not demonstrating the reality of daily mom life. Because I don’t know about you, but my toddler and me at Coachella on Thursday is not real life. We didn’t fly in from Paris this morning. We ate French toast sticks smeared with Mrs. Butterworth’s. And, I didn’t pay $40 for his leggings. They’re pajama pants and they’re hand-me-downs.
I live in this place in the middle.
A middle ground where relatable women, with shopping budgets, big cars, and multiple children who like to look their best and feel their best on a regular basis live.
They volunteer for the PTA (or the football team), they cook at home (or order take out), they shop at Target (and sometimes WalMart), they work, they have rowdy children and a spouse that needs their attention. They aren’t all size 2, they aren’t all white (but some of them are), they don’t all live in the California sunshine (but some of them do), or style every image perfectly.
They live full, happy, stylish lives featuring real pants and cute shoes.
These are my style icons.
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